Question: “How do I get my boyfriend to be a more sexual person outside the bedroom? We almost never talk about our sex life, and when we do,it's because I bring it up. I know we both enjoy sex, but I'd just love to hear him talk about it sometimes.”
Sex talk. Some persons can’t stop ranting about sex. Others are just uncomfortable with the subject. Sex is a tabu in our society. It is everywhere but nobody wants to address sex. We base the better part of our economy on sex. Sex sells. But talking openly about sex is a big NO NO. Sex is like the elephant in the room that nobody talks about. They all observe it, but keep it at a conversational distance. To be fair we have to acknowledge the fact that there is some sex talk between same sex human beings. Boys talk to boys and girls talk to girls. And if the alcohol is enough they will talk to each other about sex. But this kind of conversations don’t have the fire and passion that a sex talk between a man and a woman has.
I truly believe that the best way to encourage a person to do something is going first. So all you have to do is: GO FIRST. It is that simple. Start talking about sex, and make it in a natural way. People can tell if you are uncomfortable with a subject. But the great news is that with time and practice the awkwardness disappears. Learn to feel good when talking about sex. Excitement is also a good feeling to throw into the mix. Speak with passion and fire in your eyes. Use the most sexy voice that you have. Seduce your lover with your words. Don’t just talk about sex, have a motive. Make him do something. Create an erotic reaction in him. Basically this is heavy duty flirting. The best kind of flirting. It is exciting and extremely provocative. So get prepared for some wild sizzling nights.
Now if you really want to play with his brain use innuendo. Innuendo is the corner stone of flirting. And when you use innuendo when it comes to sex the results are explosive. Everyone can talk about mundane things that are sexually charged by the speakers. A skilled flirt can turn any usual activity into a sexual interaction. It doesn’t count the content. All that counts is the tone that is used, and the look. Use a sexy seductive tone. Look at your lover with passion and desire. Make him beg for more.
As you do all these things your lover will start joining the fun. Pretty soon he will start initializing sex talks all on his own. He will use the cover of innuendo, and the fabulous time will start rolling. Remember that the most contagious things are attitudes. So make sure that your lover catches the right ones. Show him how a sexy passion filled attitude looks like. Make him feel the lust that resides in your soul. And he will show you his.
No one can change a person if he/she doesn’t want to change. This is a big mistake that lots of people in relationships do. They try to change their lovers(not the person but their way of being ). And that is an impossible task. All you can do is change yourself and hope that your loved one will follow soon. You have to lead by example not by words. Show him what he is missing out on. Make him crave the fun and passion filled atmosphere that sex talk creates. And pretty soon he will be hooked for life.
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